Polite brush off dating

Aside from a few headscratching "I can't believe he didn't call after that great date" moments (the most frustrating thing in the world), I generally feel like it's clear when we've hit it off, when I've made it clear that I'm not interested, or when he's made it clear that he's just not that into me. How Having gone on a fair amount of first dates over the past year, I feel like I've finely honed my sense of whether or not the guy is into me at the end of the night. But since most guys are too polite or too afraid of being the bad guy to just come right out and say, "Thanks, this was nice but I don't see us hanging out again"--and I'm OK with an indirect method, I can't be that up front about it either--I have picked up on some subtler phrases that end up meaning the same thing.Enough to make a crazy long flowchart on the topic, anyway. For instance:"It was very nice meeting you." AKA what you say at the end of a business meeting. This one isn't fatal on its own, as it is kind of a generic nice thing to say to a new person, but if it's not sandwiched by "I had a great time" and "When can we do this again?But if you say no outright, the client may become angry and defensive. Instead, ask them some questions that gently expose the holes in their plan. While these pointers will help you soften the blow of a no, they should not be said with any equivocation or hemming and hawing.Instead, ask them about their goals and then kindly show them why their suggestion wouldn’t help them achieve it. If someone comes to you with an idea that’s never going to go anywhere no matter who they talk to or how they tweak it, it does him no good to sugarcoat your no. Help them see for themselves how untenable their idea is; you’re doing them a service. It turns out that DARE was right-sometimes you just need to “say no.” If someone is wasting your time and doesn’t respect you, there’s no need soften your denial. While remaining polite and warm, you must also be firm and confident. Don’t let someone guilt you into doing something by making you feel bad about your decision.There’s no pride to be had in saying yes, even to good causes, simply because you’re too afraid to say no.

He probably thought the date went really well because you're charming and funny and legitimately enjoyed yourself.

A man firmly sets his core values, goals, and priorities, makes time to tend to them, and says .

What Nice Guys don’t realize is that it’s possible to have this kind of backbone and be able to say no while maintaining positive relationships with others.

Having gone on a fair amount of first dates over the past year, I feel like I've finely honed my sense of whether or not the guy is into me at the end of the night. But since most guys are too polite or too afraid of being the bad guy to just come right out and say, "Thanks, this was nice but I don't see us hanging out again"--and I'm OK with an indirect method, I can't be that up front about it either--I have picked up on some subtler phrases that end up meaning the same thing.

Enough to make a crazy long flowchart on the topic, anyway. For instance: "It was very nice meeting you." AKA what you say at the end of a business meeting.

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