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Maybe Ivy isn't "out of the poly closet" not because she's ashamed or embarrassed to be part of a poly arrangement, but because of her particular position within that arrangement.
In the open-relationship world, there's a term for this: "couple privilege." It was introduced to the lexicon by Franklin Veaux, coauthor, with Eve Rickert, of 2014's .
In her second open relationship, her boyfriend already had a serious girlfriend.
Ivy was, for all intents and purposes, the "secondary." She was more curious than turned off: "I've always been one to question relationship paradigms, and I thought, well, the only way for me to really understand this is to try it," she says.
"I don't know any woman who isn't occasionally like, God, I just wish someone else would handle my husband tonight. "They get to go home to their partners and have a conversation around what it was like for them," she says. Which can be really amazing, but I don't have somebody to [immediately] share my experiences with.
And as the secondary lover, it's harder to ask for support.
She became his polyamory protégé, and has since had four open relationships.
What would it mean to be in someone else's open relationship as a single woman?
Would it always seem like the dreaded settling, a lesser version of what one should truly want?
The rise in interest in open relationships has been chronicled in countless print and online outlets over the past five-plus years ( The recent media glut notwithstanding, an important voice has gone missing: that of the extracurricular partner, the lover, the girlfriend or boyfriend—people like Ivy.
The focus is always on the couple—how their adventures in nonmonogamy fuel their partnership and heighten their sex lives; how they're able to navigate sleeping with others without breaking their sacred union.